Thursday, August 21, 2008

Love Q #17 - Buying Gifts

This week Love Q created by the author of Short Sweet Love Poem are as follows:

Do you think buying gifts is important in a relationship? And do you expect a gift from your partner now and then?

My answer:

I think buying gift is important in a relationship but it is not the most important thing because money cannot buy long term happiness. During the early days of the relationship or marriage, couples do usually buy gifts for each other, indeed. But after being with each other for a long time, the act of suprising each other with gifts has no longer become important part of the relationship, sometimes not even on special occasion like birthday or aniversary. This happens to my relationship with my boyfriend too. Lets first analyze why new couple buy gifts for each other that often. It could be a show of affection, gratitude, love, act to impress and win over his/her heart to you. If we no longer bother to buy gifts for our love, does that mean that we love each other less? Hmm... I wonder..... Well, I think it has something to do with a natural reaction when after we know that we have already win our "throphy", we no longer need to work so hard to get the other person's attention and affection by buying them gifts isn't it? Never the less, I agree with many people that buying gift for each other once a while is a good thing to boost up the relationship and to spice things up a little bit especially when the relationship is heading to the 'boring zone'. Having said this, I do expect to receive a gift from my partner now and then. It doesn't have to be expensive. It's the toughts that matters.

Last week's Love Q: The Marriage Institution


Tot's Mom said...

Now that's a very honest answer. I think most women say we don't expect gifts but sometimes, we actually wish for some, don't we? it's just like on Valentine's Day. We say don't waste money on flowers, but if we don't receive any, we might also get kind of disappointed, right? :)

Amidrin said...

Yes, yes. I totally agree with what you say, tot's mom. That is so true. No wonder generally man says woman's mind is too complicated to be understood.