Thursday, May 1, 2008

Love Q #1 - Being Pursued

I got this lovely topic to talk about, created by Short Sweet Poems, a website containing sweet rhyming poems and interesting love questions.

This week's Love Q:


If you are being romantically pursued but you are not interested, what would you do to let the person know? For instance, would you be direct and blunt or would you drop hints?



My answer:

Being a rather shy person with having spent my schooling years in an all girl's school, I would say I am not very good at this BGR (boy-girl-relationship) thing. Especially when it comes to having someone romantically pursuing me but I am not interested in him. At first, I would try dropping hints like being ignorant and rejecting everything he says or ask. Most guys will think I'm being arrogant and they will lose interest by then. But as I grew older and having achieved some level of maturity and braveness, I would be direct in rejecting love advances if I REALLY DO NOT LIKE that guy. I could be very direct and harsh in my explaination of rejection which could hurt that poor guy deeply. But that only just happened once or twice in my life time. The rest of the time when I am being direct in my rejection, I try not to hurt their feelings by being as gentle as I could be. Though sometimes my gentleness even when rejecting a date could be misintepreted as an opportunity which in turns, I need to repeat the rejection process many times until he sees me going out with another guy I like.


You can read what others say on this Love Q topic at Martini and Tammy's blog.

7 comments:

Tot's Mom said...

You must have lots of admirers since you have been direct, indirect and have dropped hints! Hmmm... I think I'm not so confrontational and pity the guy, especially if he is a nice guy. SO, I think I tend to drop hints and hope he gets the message. Anyway, thanks for joining in. I'm looking forward to next week already!

JO-N said...

This is the 3rd love Q post I read and most would drop hints rather than being direct. You combine all approaches and I think you are a kind girl. Mine is up too here:

http://www.lovechildrenright.com/2008/05/love-q-week-one.html

Martini said...

yeah, as time goes by, one will usually grow up to be more matured and make better decision in everything they do.

sting said...

I had a weird way of thinking last time that if I rejected too harshly, they (not that I had a lot of suitors) might come and harm me, so it had always been pretty nice rejections from me!! hehe..

Tammy said...

That's a good answer. My daughter is 14 and I know she'll be asking me for advice about love soon.

Abbey said...

I know how you feel, some guys just don't take 'hints' or assume your playing hard to get..what I dont take is people overstepping my boundaries...

Tammy with my daughter (13) Ive always been direct and honest...the biggest lesson Ive been teaching her is her own personal boundaries... and that No means No... no matter the situation... and also about never putting herself in high risk situations... at the moment I pretty well control that ie where she goes who she sees... but i need to be confident she has strength when I am not around...

great post Amidrin

Amidrin said...

tot's mom: I'm looking forward to next week's Love Q too!

jo-n: Thanks! Ya, I combined all approaches depending on situations. Hehe...

martini: Yep, experience definitely count on this one.

sting: Ooo... That's really weired way of thinking huh? But then we can never be wrong to be too careful ya

tammy: Thanks! I'm sure you'll give your daughter great advice too!

abbey: Yeah, some guys are just too insensitive to know the meaning of No means No especially those hard headed ones who will over step the boundaries. It's annoying just to let it happen. Thanks, I'm glad you like my post.